Dr. Celia
00:01 – 00:14
Hey there, BizMom. Welcome to BizMom Life. I’m your host, Dr. Celia, and we’re going to continue our two-part series on getting your momentum back after life interrupts. So last week, we talked about why interruptions felt so overwhelming.
Dr. Celia
00:15 – 00:33
It’s not because they’re actually that devastating. It’s because our brains are wired to be focused on what’s wrong instead of what’s still intact. We’re also going to be covering the first three steps of the reset framework. Recognize where you are, evaluate your energy capacity, and start smaller than what feels right.
Dr. Celia
00:33 – 00:35
Those were the first three steps of the RESET
Dr. Celia
00:36 – 01:01
framework. So today we’re going to dive into the final two steps of RESET, plus a particular comeback strategy for different types of interruptions. By the end of the episode, you’re going to have a complete game plan for bouncing back stronger every time life throws you a curveball. So let’s talk about the E-N reset, which is the fourth step, which is establish new rhythms and don’t force the old ones.
Dr. Celia
01:02 – 01:19
Here’s something crucial that most people miss. The person coming back from an interruption is not the same person who got interrupted. You’ve been through something, you learned something, you’ve grown in some way. Trying to slot back into your exact same routines and patterns ignores the growth and it often ends up feeling forced.
Dr. Celia
01:20 – 01:36
Let me tell you what happened when my son started preschool. Suddenly, I had to adapt to him waking up earlier and getting to school on time. My whole morning routine got completely disrupted. For weeks, I was trying to recreate my old morning rhythm, get frustrated when I couldn’t find the same pockets of time or energy.
Dr. Celia
01:37 – 02:02
I was fighting against this new reality instead of working with it. The breakthrough came when I stopped trying to force my old rhythm and instead asked, what rhythm wants to merge with this new reality? I discovered that my energy patterns had shifted from the earlier wake-up time, and I needed to build my work schedule around this new family dynamic. It was different from before, but once I stopped fighting it and started designing around it, it actually worked better for my current life.
Dr. Celia
02:02 – 02:19
So if you’re trying to establish new rhythms after interruption, here are the questions that helped me figure out what actually works. What did I learn about myself during this interruption? What aspects of my old routine still serve me? What needs to change to accommodate my current reality?
Dr. Celia
02:19 – 02:38
And what rhythms feel sustainable and energizing right now? Because sometimes a new rhythm is better than the old one, and sometimes it’s just different. But fighting for something that no longer fits your life keeps you stuck in frustration. And the last part of this is T, trust the process and your resilience.
Dr. Celia
02:39 – 02:57
And the final piece is the hardest because it requires faith in something you cannot actually see yet, your ability to rebuild. But in the moment when you’re in the middle of a comeback, it doesn’t feel that way. It feels scary and uncertain and like, maybe this time it’s going to be different. Here’s what I want you to remember.
Dr. Celia
02:57 – 03:11
You’re still here. You’ve been through hard things before, and while they may have changed you, knocked you down, or taken you longer than you wanted to recover from, you have found ways to keep going. And that doesn’t mean that it’s easy. That doesn’t mean you handle everything perfectly.
Dr. Celia
03:11 – 03:22
That doesn’t mean you don’t struggle or make mistakes or have moments where you want to give up. But you’re here now trying to figure out how to move forward. That matters. Some comebacks are messy.
Dr. Celia
03:22 – 03:31
Some take longer than we want. Some do not look like what we expected. But showing up imperfectly is still showing up. This time might be different.
Dr. Celia
03:31 – 03:43
It might be harder or take longer or require different strategies than before. But the fact that you’re even thinking about how to come back means you have not given up. And that’s where resilience actually lives. Not bouncing back perfectly, but the willingness to keep trying.
Dr. Celia
03:46 – 04:03
Not all interruptions are created equal and they don’t require all the same comeback approach. So let me give you particular examples for the most common types. Just say you’re coming back from health issues such as physical or mental. Your nervous system needs to know that it’s safe before it’ll let you be productive.
Dr. Celia
04:03 – 04:19
Pushing too hard sends signals that you’re still in crisis mode. So start with something called like the gentle re-entry, which is like maybe answering three emails instead of clearing your entire inbox. Maybe it’s writing 10 minutes instead of an hour. Maybe it’s just one client call instead of a full day of meetings.
Dr. Celia
04:20 – 04:32
Listen to your body signal. If you’re starting to feel overwhelmed or depleted, that’s information, not failure. Your body is telling you to slow down a bit more. I learned that lesson during that six-week illness I mentioned last week.
Dr. Celia
04:32 – 05:03
I kept pushing myself to work at the normal pace because I thought I could prove that I was better, but my nervous system was still recovering and pushing actually prolonged my healing process. So when I finally gave myself permission to work in small chunks of time and rest when I needed to, I actually recovered faster and felt more sustainable energy when I did work. So if you’re coming back from a family crisis, give yourself permission to operate in maintenance mode for longer that feels comfortable. You do not have to be in growth mode while you’re still processing what happened.
Dr. Celia
05:03 – 05:23
Maintenance mode means like keeping existing clients happy, maintaining basic busyness operations, and not pushing for new initiatives until your nervous system has settled. And this is not falling behind. This is honoring the fact that humans need integration time after intense experiences. A few years ago, I had worsening health issues that required my attention for several weeks.
Dr. Celia
05:23 – 05:47
And when things settled down, I stayed in maintenance mode for a month after. I focused on serving my existing clients and keeping my basic systems running, but I did not launch anything new or push for growth. Some part of me feels guilty about this, like I was wasting time, but looking back, I could see that I needed that integration period. Trying to grow while still processing what happened would have been like trying to plant new seeds in soil that was not ready.
Dr. Celia
05:48 – 06:02
And just say you’re coming back from scheduled disruptions, like resist the urge to immediately recreate your old routines. Instead, spend one to two weeks observing your new reality. When do you have new energy? When do you have time?
Dr. Celia
06:02 – 06:17
What feels different? Then design new rhythms based on what you discovered, not what used to work. And this is exactly what I had to do when my son started preschool, which is the example I used before. Instead of fighting my old rhythms, I just spent time noticing.
Dr. Celia
06:17 – 06:30
When did I feel most creative with these new morning demands? When did I feel most focused? What times of day felt most productive right now that everything has shifted? From these observations, I had to build a new routine that actually worked better than my old one.
Dr. Celia
06:31 – 06:54
I discovered that working with my new family rhythm instead of against it made everything flow smoother. And if you’re coming back from like business setbacks, this type requires building confidence alongside building momentum. Start with tasks that feel easy and familiar, things that you know that you’re good at. Maybe that’s nurturing existing client relationships, creating content in your wheelhouse, or doing behind the scene work that does not feel risky.
Dr. Celia
06:55 – 07:07
Two years ago, I had two events during my bundle that were filled up. The first one, no one had shown up. The second event, only one person showed up. Each event had 25 people who registered, and I was devastated.
Dr. Celia
07:07 – 07:27
But beyond the disappointment, what really knocked me off course was the story I was telling myself about my competence as a business owner. Instead of jumping into another big project right away, I spent a few weeks focusing on things I knew I was good at. Coaching my clients and witnessing their breakthroughs, emailing my list, and nurturing my community. Those small wins reminded me I didn’t know what I was doing and it gave me confidence to eventually try bigger challenges.
Dr. Celia
07:27 – 07:43
The goal is not to avoid eruptions because they’re part of life. The goal is to build resilience so when they happen, and they will, you can navigate them with more grace and less drama. So what would they look like? So it might be like creating systems that can run without you.
Dr. Celia
07:43 – 08:08
This might mean batch creating content when you’re feeling good, setting up automatic email sequences, or having templates ready for common situations. Like after a stomach bug, I let go of social media because it took too long to create and I could not keep up with it. Instead, I focused on systems that felt more sustainable to me, like my email list and podcasts, and things I could batch create when I had energy. or building a support network.
Dr. Celia
08:08 – 08:41
And this can include practical support, like people who could help out with your kids or household stuff, and emotional support, people who could understand the entrepreneurial journey and remind you of your strength when you forget. Like, I have a coach who helps me with my entrepreneurial journey, and having someone who understands both business challenges and mom life realities makes such a difference when you’re trying to navigate interruptions. And this struggle, trying to come back from setbacks while managing everything else, is exactly what inspired Bisman Balance Blueprint. As a trained psychiatrist, I understand how our brain responds to stress and interruption.
Dr. Celia
08:41 – 09:10
But as a mom entrepreneur, I also know that textbook advice does not always work when you’re trying to build a business between diaper changes or school pickups. You need someone who gets both the science of how our mind works and the reality of mom life. If you’re ready for more support that combines the neuropsychology of how the mind works with real-world mom experience, check out Biz Mom Balance Blueprint in the show notes below. So the final piece of building resilience is practicing self-compassion.
Dr. Celia
09:11 – 09:26
And practicing self-compassion may look like talking to yourself in a way that you talk to your best friend who’s going through the same thing. Like you would not tell her that she’s falling behind or she’s failing. You would remind her that she’s human and doing the best. And this is still hard for me sometimes.
Dr. Celia
09:26 – 09:45
Like my default is still to be harder on myself than I would with anyone else. But I’m getting better at catching that voice and asking, what would I tell my best friend in this situation? And another thing that helps with building resilience is keeping a comeback wins list. And every time you’re successfully navigating an interruption, write down what works.
Dr. Celia
09:46 – 10:10
Like over time, you’ll have a personalized playbook for future challenges. So I keep a note in my phone and jot things down like, alright, just start with one task today to build momentum, or take that extra week in maintenance mode to help me come back stronger, or asking help with my son to give me space to focus on my most important work tasks. And when I’m in the middle of a new interruption, I can look back at the list and remember what has worked for me before.
Dr. Celia
10:12 – 10:29
So here’s something I want you to consider. What if interruptions are not obstacles to your success, but part of your success story? Like every interruption teaches you something about resilience, adaptability, and what really matters in your business. Every comeback makes you stronger and more confident in your ability to handle what comes next.
Dr. Celia
10:30 – 10:47
Some of my biggest business breakthroughs have come directly from interruptions. That six-week illness taught me to build better systems and be more strategic with my energy. My son starting preschool helped me discover new rhythms that actually worked better for my family life. And these interruptions did not derail my success.
Dr. Celia
10:47 – 11:01
They became part of it. I hope you found this two-part series gives you exactly what you’re looking for when you request this topic in the listener Q&A. Those interruptions aren’t evidence that you’re not cut out for entrepreneurship. They’re just part of the human experience.
Dr. Celia
11:01 – 11:19
So remember the complete reset framework, which is recognize where you’re actually at versus what your brain is telling you. Evaluate your real energy and capacity. Start smaller than what feels right. Establish new rhythms that fit your current reality and trust the process with your proven resilience.
Dr. Celia
11:19 – 11:38
Your resilience is stronger than you think, your foundation is more solid than it feels, and your comeback story is still being written. So next week, we’re going to dive into another listener’s question on how to do legion between temper tantrums. And trust me, this is going to be a juicy episode. Until then, remember, you are loved, you are capable, and interruptions do not erase progress.
Dr. Celia
11:38 – 11:40
So I’ll see you next time.
